Our anger management system is great- but it felt incomplete. So I would like to introduce you to the slingshot, pigs, blue birds, big red bird, and ice bird (newest bird from Angry Bird Space)... anger management style. I just have to add- these strategies were created to help my daughter understand and deal with her anger- so maybe not all these will apply to your children.
Pigs: They stole the eggs and made the birds angry. What triggers your kiddo's anger? Is it someone else taking their toys? Being asked to clean their room? Or is it frustration when they can't complete a task? Maybe its a brother who antagonizes or teases. My daughter's biggest anger trigger right now is centered around impatience: not getting what she wants when she wants it.
Once our kids are familiar with their anger triggers, you can work with them on creating plans to avoid becoming an angry bird and choosing ahead of time the cool-down strategies they will use. This would make for a FABULOUS role playing experience for family night so everyone can be familiar with each other's cool-down plans.
The blue birds teach us that our anger can spread to others in the home or classroom. I can TOTALLY relate to that- when I am grumpy I bring the rest of the family down. And the same goes with our kids- their outward inappropriate expressions of anger can spread and dampen the moods of others. A child gets angry that her younger brother is playing with her toy. She snatches the toy out of his hands, making him mad and hitting his sister. Mother walks in, frustrated with the situation and uses cutting words to her children. Her frustration makes the children feel hurt and more angry.
You can see how that one initial act of anger spread to her brother and mother!
And not only are they dampening the mood of the home, but they are setting an inappropriate example to younger siblings of how to deal with anger.
And last, but not least, I would like to introduce you to the Ice Bird- the newest angry bird that you'll see on Angry Bird Space available March 22. Apparently he will turn things into ice.
Feelings of anger don't have to be frozen inside. A child should feel comfortable talking with others about how she feels- whether those feelings be good or bad. A child who suppresses her anger because she is not allowed to express it at all can lead to feelings of low self worth and depression. Teach your kids that feeling angry is "normal". And when she messes up and throws a huge tantrum in the middle of the grocery store- don't be cold to her. Forgive her.
Love can melt away anger faster than anything else.
Happy Teaching ♥